B is for Brilliant
Welcome to B is for Brilliant, a podcast hosted by me, Mary Strachan.
I feature interviews with solopreneurs whose brilliance is sure to inspire you – they’re building their businesses and creating change in the world on their own terms.
What's Really Going On When Your Clients Say "I don't have the money."
Meet your Money & Time Spirit
The Simplified Office
All of Me Counts
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Parenting and Teaching: Beyond Surface Solutions FB Group
All of Me Counts
Zarah Darling on #vanlife and the joy of being an Izzy Ideas
Download Zarah’s Morning Mantra Mixtape!
Why You'll Want to Opt for an Opt-In
What Have You Stuffed and Stored, Locked and Linked?
She Leads Fearlessly
Angels Peacocks and Butterflies: 100 Days of Miracle Game
Only in Silence Can We Truly Listen
Content Personality + Storytelling = Marketing with Joy and Ease
Thanks for Being Epic!
Lazy Recipes Live & The Mind, Body, Peas Community
When Life Gives You Lemonade, Do You Really Make the Lemonade?
- the brain does what we ask it to do
- when we focus on the lemons, our brain literally practices the problem, making the connections stronger and faster
- it also practices for future activation, whether or not the problem truly exists
- we can train ourselves to be anxious!
- shifting our attention to the lemonade engages networks that are more productive and help us move into a different place of problem solving
- when we can focus on opportunities, it leaves room for CREATIVITY
- even when a situation is very difficult, it is important to hold the possibility that one day you may be able to look back and see that it opened up some kind of possibility for you
- learn more about Dr Karen and take her quiz here
Are You Missing Out on Possibilities?
- when we focus on what we don’t want, from a problem perspective, we engage our brain to focus on what’s not right
- however, focusing on what we do want opens up more options and more possibilities
- your personal style determines which mindset/focus will motivate you to get things done
- there are two mindsets: prevention or promotion
- promotion focus: what things could become, what action will bring on a positive outcome
- prevention focus: preventing loss, what action will prevent bad things
- motivation is a driver – what leads us to actually take action
- there is a North American cultural push towards promotion mindset as the preferable option
- Eastern cultures tend to be more prevention focused
- visionaries and entrepreneurs tend to be more promotion focused and can benefit from prevention minded people
- prevention focused can feel guilty because we do things to not let others down
- one is not better than the other
- good for people to recognize what works for them and build on that, rather than thinking you are broken
- QUESTIONS to help you understand which focus you have: Make a list of 4 qualities you ideally want to have. Make a second list of 4 qualities you could be better at. Which was harder for you to do? Ideally = promotion Be better at = prevention
- you can also tell by what feels right when you go to do something – if you are eager to do it, fell positive energy and excitement = promotion; doing it to avoid something, not let someone down = prevention
When You Have a Million Things to Do
- the brain holds on to things that are “unresolved” or what we have not taken action on
- it’s like leaving tabs open on your computer
- they become an “attention disrupter” because when we try to focus on one task/tab, we see the other tasks/tabs too and they distract us
- our brain becomes less and less efficient and it becomes more difficult to do one task
- the brain likes efficiency, and is always on the alert for the opportunity to outsource!
- doing a brain dump is a way to outsource our thoughts and to-do’s
- with regular practice, the brain will trust that it can outsource to a “to-do” list
- to do a brain dump, simply record all of the thoughts, tasks, to-do’s (by hand, in an app, make a voice recording)
Find the Flow Between the Teeny Tiny Details and the Big Picture
- zooming in and zooming out from a problem (opportunity)
- big picture = zoom out
- actual steps = zoom in
- when we keep only the larger goal in mind, we fail to activate the “get it done” networks or, for some people, too many get activated and we get overwhelmed
- when we break it into steps, we can target the key networks we need to move forward
- sometimes we know the steps but we don’t zoom out to the WHY and the tasks seem monotonous
- when we only look at the big picture, part of us will feel like we’ve already done it, and then it’s hard to stay motivated
- if we only focus on the little steps, we lose the why and lose the motivation, energy, engagement
- so it doesn’t really work to focus only on one or the other
- we need to have that movement back and forth between the two
- the steps need to feel small enough to be manageable, but also big enough to keep us motivated
- when we finish a step, it feels good and the brain can let go of it as well (listen to the Brain Dump interview)
- we can convince ourself that any size step is momentum building (especially if we repeat it)
- smaller steps lead to confidence building
- if you have a promotion mindset you are more likely to take steps to bigger goal, and if you have a prevention mindset you’ll have some reservations, so you need to have smaller steps to work around that mindset
- as a Brain Mentor, Karen helps people work with their brain instead of fixing it